Someone once told me they could not believe I ended up with someone as attractive as my husband, Drew. At first, I laughed it off, but that statement stayed with me for a long time. It stirred something deep something I had tried to quiet for years.
Being married to someone who could easily be mistaken for a fitness model has brought out a lot of insecurities I never expected. I am a curvy woman. I have always been aware of my body, and sometimes not in the healthiest and fittest way. When people see us together, I sometimes pictured them wondering how someone like me with almost no beauty ended up with someone as perfect as him. And honestly, I have had those thoughts too. I have told myself I was not thin enough, fit enough, or “perfect” enough to deserve someone like Drew he was handsome as well as charming.
But here comes the truth: this man has loved me through every season. For over 10 years, he is seen every version of me every curve, every stretch mark, every breakout and still looks at me like I am the most beautiful woman in the world.He tells me I’m beautiful, especially on the days I do not feel it.
We met in college, not through some romantic setup, but through some silly lost bet you know just teenagers’ things that led to our first kiss. From that moment, everything changed. We built a life together not based on our appearances, but on connection, laughter, and trust and the special bond.
Sure, my thighs touch like they were hugging, my arms are soft, and my body has changed over time. But there is just more of me for him to hold. And the truth is, I did not have a crash landing on him. I chose him, and he chose me. What drew him in was not my shape or size, but my heart. He fell in love with my heart, my humor, my dreams, and the life we could build together.
We are not defined by our bodies. I am not just “the curvy girl,” and Drew is not just “Mr. Six Pack.” We are two people who love each other deeply. And I have learned that love has nothing to do with fitting a mold.
So if you have ever doubted your worth because of your appearance, please hear me out: you are so much more than just your body. Who you are right now is more than enough for real love.
