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They Walked Away When He Needed Them Most So I Stayed With Jeffery

They Walked Away When He Needed Them Most So I Stayed With Jeffery

Jeffery’s story began before he was even born. His parents were young and not ready to raise a child. My sister, his mother, struggled a lot during her pregnancy. She had mental and physical health issues, and at one point was hospitalized with a serious infection. She talked about not wanting to live and even said she wished her baby would die too. I’m Jeffery’s aunt, and I tried to support her through it all.

baby boy sleeps peacefully with binky in moth

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Jeffery was born a big, healthy baby. But he didn’t have the safest home. My sister moved in with her boyfriend and his family, living in a basement with no crib — just a small chair for Jeffery to sleep in. I hardly saw them. She stopped replying to messages, even when I offered help.

baby in hospital with shaken baby syndrome with monitors attached to head

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Then, on September 5th, I got a text. The photo showed a tiny baby covered in wires and machines. At first, I didn’t even recognize that it was Jeffery. He had been rushed to the hospital after he stopped breathing while his mom’s boyfriend was working on a farm. Jeffery was just 3 months old. He had been in a chest carrier on a tractor. His little body couldn’t handle it.

baby with shaken baby syndrome in hospital with breathing tube

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When I arrived at the hospital, it broke my heart. Machines surrounded him. My sister and her boyfriend acted like nothing had happened. They didn’t stay by his side. I held his little hand, and not long after, I was able to hold him in my arms. A nurse told me he was having seizures and had brain bleeds. The doctors confirmed he had severe injuries — not from an accident, but from abuse.

baby lays with blankets while drinking a bottle

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Later, my sister confessed she had thrown Jeffery onto the bed multiple times because he wouldn’t stop crying. She eventually told a different version of what happened, but by then, the harm had already been done. CPS asked if I could care for Jeffery. I agreed without thinking twice. My family stepped up to help at home so I could be there for him.

baby smiles while sitting in his car seat

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Jeffery came home with medical needs. He had seizures, needed a feeding tube, and had to visit many doctors. I quit my job to care for him full-time. Slowly, he made progress. But then the seizures changed. He was diagnosed with a rare type called infantile spasms. We were rushed back to the hospital.

stitches on the top of an infants head

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aunt takes selfie with her nephew who she later adopts

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It was just me and him. He clung to me. I became his safe place. I was scared, but I never left his side. Through it all, Jeffery fought hard. Even though his parents failed him, he had me. And I was not going to let him go through this alone.