Imagine the pain a couple must have to go through when giving their child away for adoption, no matter what the reasons were. The mother, Andrian, who was just 18 when she gave birth to her daughter, was in college as a junior and was not prepared to take care of another human, as she was not stable emotionally or financially. However, abortion, being a tough decision, was not what she thought of, and she decided to give birth.
Andrian and her boyfriend loved the baby but wanted to choose the best for her. And at that time, the best option was not for her to stay, so they opted for adoption to give her a bright future and a good life.
The day she gave birth, looking at the baby and preparing herself to say goodbye was the hardest thing the couple had to do. Andrian also recalled how it was one of the most challenging moments of her life.
Before the couple left the hospital, Andrian whispered in the baby’s ears how she loved her. The motherly extinct did not allow Andrian to walk out until she took her time observing every little detail of her body, not knowing if they would ever see this piece of her heart again.
The couple talked about her often; time passed, and they graduated. The beauty of the relationship was that they never parted ways and got married. Getting married to the father of her daughter, the love of her life, was the day she had waited for years. It was a dreamy, ‘high-school sweethearts’ story, but the thought of their daughter did not leave all this time, even when the family was now a family of five: the couple and their three sons.
Andrian also decided to mentor couples, specifically mothers going through a similar pain of bidding their children goodbye. During those classes, the woman, who also had to decide on giving their baby up for adoption, asked Andrian if the couple had a place for another child in the home.
With open arms, the couple agreed to adopt her baby boy, and since the adoption, the thought of her daughter kept revisiting Andrian’s mind. It felt like Andrian had been through all sorts of motherhood phases, from giving birth to losing, and now she was ready to adopt wholeheartedly.
Next, what happened was what the couple had not expected in years. Their daughter contacted them! She was 12 at the time, and hearing from their daughter after over a decade had overflowed the couple’s hearts with joy. The moment she arrived home felt real, and Andrian, who held her first baby, the oldest one after so many years, did not want her to leave her heartbroken again.
The couple spent a weekend with their daughter, reconnecting and sharing stories. Over the years, their bond strengthened as they often wrote each other emails, calls, and letters.
However, the news of the family who adopted the baby had now cut ties when she turned 18, broke Andrian and her husband’s hearts, as they wanted the girl to choose between her biological and adoptive parents. Thus, over time, they disowned her, which also affected the biological parents, as they were the people with whom they entrusted their daughter.
However, what the husband suggested was something the couple could never have imagined: re-adopting their daughter! The only thing required was her consent, as she was already an adult, and no lengthy process or paperwork would be required. Although she did take her time thinking, in the end, she was all set to return to her family.
The court hearing was emotional yet joyful. After 18 years, Andrian finally heard her daughter call her ‘Mom’, the sweetest phrase ever.
Andrian is now a mother to five children, but her journey of embracing motherhood is unique as she did not just give birth but also adopted and re-adopted her children. Her beautiful story demonstrates the grace and beauty of second chances and shows how some bonds are always meant to grow and be there forever!
