A strong marriage lays the foundation for a strong family. By choosing to love, respect, and grow together first, we had to give our children the gift of stability and a living example of partnership. Every laugh, every hand held, every challenge faced side by side teaches them what real love looks like.
This tale was told by Kyleen, who was happily married and enjoying the best of her life. They were sitting in the tax office when a random woman helping them casually said,” You don’t see many people who are married with kids anymore.” At first, Kyleen slipped it off, but then it sank in; she was right. It feels uncommon to meet those people who are married before starting a family.
Everyone’s journey looks different; this story of Kyleen’s wasn’t to shame anyone. According to Kyleen, they decided to marry before having children. This was not just about respecting the culture and not breaking the standard set of rules set by society; that choice also gave them the foundation they needed to build their family. Even though they weren’t married for years when the couple was dating, the decision to grow their family was intentional and planned. And that planning had made all the difference.
Marriage didn’t just make them a couple; it gave them a shared commitment and a promise to survive life’s challenges together. As parents, their bond was made even stronger. They wanted to embrace parenthood when they were officially bound, and were desperate to see a little version of each other roaming around the house. Every day, they nurtured their relationship and shaped what love, respect, and partnership looked like. They wanted their kids to understand marriage as more than a tag; it’s a choice to put each other first, compromise, forgive, and keep showing up.
Kyleen often reminds herself that children are watching. Everything that children tend to learn and habits that stick with them for a lifetime is all about what they know as toddlers. How they speak with each other, handle disagreements, laugh, and celebrate together teaches them what a marriage should be.
One day, when they are grown-ups and thinking about their relationships, I hope they look back on theirs and want the same kind of love.
Ultimately, being married before kids wasn’t just about tradition; it was about creating a strong base for their family. Every time they see their children’s little eyes watching them, they are reminded that the marriage they build is shaping not only Kyleen’s future but theirs, too. And with the beautiful family the couple has built comes great joy, a house full of love, and inner peace. What else does the human heart want?
