Valuing the traditions, norms, and culture society has established can be bliss, but letting it affect your life can disturb you. Sydney and her boyfriend always wished to move in together, but the rejection from society and the people around them kept them from making the decision. However, they did end up leaping, not letting society and its judgments affect them. Currently, it has been three months since the couple has been living together, and they acknowledge it to be the best decision they have made to make their relationship grow.
The journey wasn’t a bed of roses, as judgments and harsh comments were the norm. Everyone, including their family members and friends, swiftly passed opinions without giving them a second thought. While a few used their words, the others quietly gave side-eyes to show disapproval. Sydney recalls how they were told it was not the right time, and they were too young to manage all their expenses and needs alone. Moreover, the ones standing firm on faith said it was not the Christian way, and the justification was that the guy would never want to marry her if they moved in. Knowing these comments were old and cliché, the couple, rather than getting rebellious, chose to stay silent and quietly build their little world.
Sydney knew how they would be able to do it all with the support of each other, as although they were young, Sydney was 20 while her boyfriend was 22, they worked really hard. While her boyfriend worked full-time, Sydney juggled managing college and her part-time work. She was constantly around people who were settled well in life, either married or raising kids at that age, so it was a constant reassurance that the decision was not too early and there was no right time to start a new chapter of life. After all, the heart wants what it wants! They knew they would make things work this way and were fine.
When it was finally time to move in, their first anniversary was near. Sydney was often left surprised when she thought about how different the itinerary for every couple is. While a few date for decades, but never decide between marrying and moving in, others follow the five-year rule, to see if things work out between them. However, for Sydney and her boyfriend, it was a matter of a few months as they were firm believers that nothing would affect the relationship negatively if they stayed committed. If you are someone in love, do not compare your bond and emotions with those you see around, as fate has a different story planned for everyone.
Sydney agrees that moving has never been a part of their tradition and culture, and their decision did not mean disrespecting it. However, the couple looks forward to marrying, and their long-term vision is similar. The decision did make Sydney question her spirituality. However, since they moved in, they have been praying, and their hearts have found peace in staying under one roof. Nothing else could have strengthened their bond and relationship, the way moving in has done. The way they have seen each other handle problems as minor as shuffling daily chores, or about finances, they know exactly how to communicate it all without hesitation.
Not only this, but living a life together and building a family seems more exciting than before, as the responsibilities they fulfill without complacency reassure them that they can handle bigger things in life together with great patience and love. The couple is glad that before deciding to get married, they could see the compromises and responsibilities it brings for both of them. Not only this, but they know how respecting the opinions of others is integral, and they have now learnt the art of not letting them hurt their personal lives.
