The primary purpose of getting married is to add good to your partner’s life. However, it needs to be understood that you love your partner every day, but on some days, you do not like them. It was when she said she felt she did not want to be married anymore. Although Emmy and her husband had a beautiful bond, one that people pray for, lately, all the bickering and arguments got way too much.
The moment Emmy said it, there was complete silence in the room.
Her husband stood there frozen, trying to process if she was actually saying it all, and there he was, in tears, not something Emmy had seen in a while. Emmy’s husband did not know how to respond to it and needed time to process whether that was what Emmy wanted. Emmy, being madly in love with the same guy for years, has no intention of hurting him emotionally, but one day it gets too much to keep it all inside. She wanted her partner to know and understand how she felt lately and to figure out what needed fixing. At this point, after days of emotionally draining herself and choosing silence over arguments, she expressed how, if possible, all she wanted was to run away from it all.
Your partner is the only person who sees you go through multiple phases in life, yet the beauty of marriage is that, rather than running away from the lows, you choose to stick to the same person without any regrets every day. Emmy was glad her husband responded to all the chaos, something she would never forget. Her husband stood firmly beside her and was ready to fight it all rather than running away from all the problems. He constantly reminded Emy of the beautiful days and how their love was true and unique.
Rather than blaming Emmy for the situation and her harsh words, he reassured her that they were two souls bound together by destiny and were never supposed to fight alone. He was ready to hold Emmy’s hand through every decisive moment, as if she gave him strength to get up every time he fell, and was prepared for every tough conversation to save the marriage.
The balance between the good and bad days reminds us that marriage isn’t easy. It comes with responsibilities and challenges. Moreover, the support of their family and friends made it easier for the couple to navigate through the obstacles. Their thinking of their marriage as exemplary was a testament to the love between the two and a reminder for the couple about how imperfectly perfect their relationship was.
When you think of getting married, consider realistically how two people with different habits and upbringings must adjust in one place. It takes compromises, but most are done out of love for your partner. Differences in opinions and preferences may spark arguments, but do not forget how things can be settled down with love, too. Marriage is messy, especially when you embrace parenthood. It’s more like tiny humans roaming around with half your personality and half the other person’s personality.
Every day is a new challenge, but imagine leaving your children or abandoning them just because you are tired and can’t handle it anymore. One might not even be able to think of it, so why not treat marriage the same way? The delusions of marriage being all about comfort and romance fade away with time, and then comes the time when several negative thoughts and emotions occupy your mind. You may often question if you found the right partner or would have been happier with someone else; ultimately, you decide.
Rather than choosing to run away with things, decide to hold on and be gentle. Sitting through storms, the days you feel low and unloved, and when conversation gets tough, makes things much easier. And the bad days never last forever, either. Ultimately, when you have someone who treats you right and loves you more than you have loved yourself all these years, know it is worth it. It might take time, but you will figure it out!
