We often hear that love is an emotion that is genuinely felt; however, this is the story of Bethany, a widow who experienced falling in love twice, and both times, it was equally pure. This is for women looking for love but who are scared of what people will say and how they will be judged. There is no fear that your fears will sting you and keep you from experiencing the good in life again. This article was meant for you!
The feeling of knowing that people around you may be taking ill or disapproving of your actions can be stressful and can be hurtful; however, until you experience loss and grief yourself, you can never comprehend how people going through tough times feel. They don’t know and are not supposed to be saying anything. The grief you go through every day, they did not experience a single day feeling that way. Since your partner passed away, people do not know how quiet your house has been. The place that once was your safe place has become the one you keep running away from.
No one except those who have gone through the nightmare of losing their partner knows how it feels to spend nights on the bathroom floor, bawling your eyes out, and not being able to get up. They don’t know how heavy it feels to take a single step towards your bed on such a night. No one knows how you run away from the corners, where you have dear memories made with your partner. The beautiful memories you’d want to live repeatedly feel like they’ll eat you up; they are suddenly unbearable now.
Not only this, but they are also unaware of how you have been hardly eating and how drained you are emotionally and physically. This is not how you previously were, struggling to take the first sip of water and making yourself a bite of food. No one knows. The person with such powerful decision-making skills now stares blankly at the wall, trying to comprehend everything around them. On the outside, no one can see the trauma, but you know how it has changed and drained you completely. Your power is how you wake up each day and decide to stand firm! No one will ever understand how complicated it is.
People would not understand how courageous you must be to lose your partner and still smile, but falling in love feels like welcoming someone home wholeheartedly; it feels like opening your heart again! Losing your partner, someone you shared your life with, is not easy, but at this time, prioritising your happiness is not the wrong thing. You’re just made to feel this way.
Being told that you move on too quickly or did not love your partner enough should not be words that take over your happiness. You are not supposed to feel guilt for being in love and choosing to be happy again. Especially for a woman who is a widow, society is a tough place. However, if you know someone around you, do not forget to show up and support her in such major decisions in her life. Do it now, whether you plan to get her flowers or send her food!
Trust her when, even after such a significant loss, she chooses to love again and has thought about the decision over a hundred times. Sometimes love is all that we need! Not just this, remember that if you go through loss and grief, there is no necessity that you have to stay broken and are not allowed to love again. Care less about the judgments, and more about what you need now. You’ll be fine!
