Losing your partner can be the most challenging journey you take in life. However, losing someone may look like the person is remembered on the big days, where significant achievements are celebrated and special occasions, but it isn’t limited to these. From seeing the other side of the bed empty to the quiet room where the couple lay for hours and talked about the day before dozing off, the little moments make Meghan go through waves of grief.
The ordinary things that were once part of the daily routine make you realise how empty life becomes without your partner. She recalls how he used to take care of all the little things, such as the peanut butter pretzels, turning off the light after putting the baby to sleep, and filling Lily’s bowl with water before bed.
Although for someone who reads this article, they might seem like small habitual actions everyone does, but the small things bother you the most. Now, no excuses seem to work. He is no longer out with friends or at work, but he wouldn’t return now, and the truth hits hard on a random Tuesday morning.
It doesn’t mean the absence is felt less on bigger occasions; they hit hard, too. However, at least they are the ones that we are ready to face. But the minor ones? How do we cope when everything you do takes you back to when your partner was present with you? The realisation of how we humans take so many things, they do mean a lot for granted until they are gone.
The opportunity to do the little things in life, whether running the everyday chores, hitting the target to get you some snacks for a perfect movie night, or repeating the same routine without complaining, is bliss until the love of your life stands firm beside you. Undoubtedly, such moments are the ones you cherish and remember the most!
Everything was different before Joe died on a cold December night in 2020. Meghan was focused on constantly achieving significant milestones in life and planning the future, as we all do. However, she wants everyone to know that the most precious thing and the biggest asset you have in life is your loved ones. Everything that Maghan and Joe did together was the heart of their life, and she did not realise it until he passed away. We see all the little acts as background details of our life, but this is precisely how it shouldn’t be.
3rd of December was the last day Meghan and Joe spent together. The day seemed like another perfect day that was all about checking out the tasks that needed to be done on the to-do list, following their routine and rituals. Looking back at home, much misses the routine; she would not change anything about it! There was nothing special or different about that day, but the good night kisses and how Joe called her while he was on his way home, she would now re-live those moments forever.
The little things in life are not so little, and it is human nature to ask for more. However, while you hustle to achieve good things in life, do not forget to cherish the little reminders of love that ache and anchor later when they are no longer a part of your life. Maghan also penned how she wishes to live a life that celebrates the ordinary and simple things. After all, they are what life is all about. Although she misses Joe every day, she remains grateful for the beautiful time the couple spent together, and every day is just another reminder of how little things can hold so much love.
